Many couples come to the Relationship Help Resort in distress. Their relationships are sick, and some, nearly dead. They are angry, frustrated, and confused, and they have tried everything they know how to do, but simply don't have the answers they need. The main artery has been cut in the lifeline of their relationship and they can’t seem to stop the bleeding. When I begin my questioning to understand what went wrong I always find that they have stopped giving one another the respect and consideration they each feel they deserve. 

The woman might say, “I work so hard to please my family. I cook, and clean, and care for their needs and no one even says thank you.” 
 
The husband’s response goes something like this. “Why should we thank her? She is simply doing her job.”

Or the wife comes in complaining that her husband doesn’t do anything around the house. His argument is, “He can never do it to her...